Being compare to- 02/02/2015

Hmm, I use to be compare a lot when I was little. For a example, who is more prettier, who has better marks, who is more trustworthy, who would get more guys etc etc. I wouldn't win those comparisons because I didn't really care but to my mom it use to mean anything. Even meant more than loving me... That's where my relationship with my mom got rocky because the comparisons got even bigger but the older I got I started to think what means the most is who you are in the inside. Sounds so cheesy... Don't compare yourself to anyone though because who you are whether inside or outside is who you really are. Don't take that quality away from yourself. I would say being compare to wasn't that nice at all because after all those comparisons, I really felt insecure about myself and I thought I didn't mean much because I couldn't reach the comparisons. I just gave up started to focus on myself and being a better person or friend to anyone. I guess you could say I got my insecurities from being compare to a friend or stranger which I advise to never do because it can damage you internally or just temporarily like me. I use to feel bad when my friend's mom compare me and her. She would say to me is that I have more respect than her daughter. I was staying there thinking umm.. Your daughter has the same respect like me, she's wonderful and caring. Another thing she would say is my kids if I ever have kids would look more beautiful than her daughter kids. That's where I got mad because I know how it felt to get compare to and it wasn't fun at all. Sad thing is she ended up all depress and hurt by her mom's words that she did some things she shouldn't have. There might be people who are more prettier, smarter and other things but one thing they can't take away is you, everyone is different in their own way.