Things not to say to someone who's always in a relationship. 01/20/2017

1. "How do you spice it up?" As if it weren't already spicy. When you're in a really, really good relationship, you don't have to search for something else. They're just there in infinite supply. 

2. "You're young! You need to get out there and experience what the world has to offer you." And by that do you mean "have one-night stands with guys who don't know what they're doing and first dates that are awkward as hell"? I don't judge if that's what you enjoy. But if I found My Person, there's no point in going on dates that I don't really want to be on. 

3. "How's the ball and chain doing?" Or "How's the boyfriend?" you might say while rolling your eyes as if to suggest it's such a chore to be in a happy, steady relationship. He's great and we love the shit out of each other, actually! Thanks for asking.

4. "People in long-term relationships are just people who are way too comfortable with each other." Allow me to clarify: A comfortable relationship is not an unhappy relationship. I'm comfortable with my significant other in the sense that I will walk around with no makeup and send him ugly selfies. Comfort does not make us dislike each other.

5. "It's so weird that you have no one else to compare him or your relationship to. How can you even tell if he's The One?"  This is hard to understand for someone who hasn't found their person yet, but if you have found your person, you know. To put it in simple terms — your favorite personal belonging probably isn't your favorite because some external force made you realize that it is. Your favorite green bracelet is your favorite green bracelet because you love it and it means something to you. It's that simple. So, yeah, I just know. 

6. "I don't believe in monogamy." And I do. Which is why I am me, and you are you. Oh, look, a poem! 

7. "Come on, just be my wingwoman!" Uh, no, that's boring for me. I don't bring you out on my dates because you'd rather poke your eyes out than be a third wheel, which is totally fine. But that's what being your wingwoman feels like to me. 

8. "Doesn't it get boring?" If it were boring I wouldn't be doing it. I'm in a committed relationship with a person, I am not in a committed relationship with boredom. Thanks though.